Well, this week I was going to write on the views that many older generations have toward “millennials”. Though, in lieu of resent events, I’ve decided to write on something else— getting ditched.
I’m not talking about your everyday ditched; dates, hang outs, one night stands– no. I’m talking about your friend, your best friend of years, going ghost. But first, some context.
So, one of my friends that I met at school started getting involved with this dude, her tattoo artist. About ten years older, wife, 4 kids, 2 jobs, and a fuck ton of problems. I knew it was happening since the very beginning, her tweets weren’t sly in the least. And I knew it was going to be a mess from the beginning too. Then, naturally the universe did her business and the wife found out. It was an ENTIRE mess and my other friend and I had to hear all about it in our groupchat.
So she swears off of him after one too many pulls to her heartstrings. But of course, he comes back. Not literally, but his friends kept telling her how he was miserable, etc, etc. She’s pulled back in. He then ends up coming back to the shop (which he only quit because he wife told him to. Why? Because that’s where my friend apprentices/they fuck.)
The second he was back in that shop she was gone. September 12th is the last time she talked to either of us. I texted her the other day, she answered instantly. “Just been busy with work and moving and your schedules were crazy”, “everything’s gravy”. Cool, but here’s the thing: she’s been done moving for weeks. Neither her nor our work schedules were ever hectic enough to NOT EVEN READ our messages. She deleted her Twitter after posting about how she “must be a pretty good girlfriend”. And finally she posted about needing a “mental health day” on Tumblr because “(I just wanna be okay)”.
So, why the lying? Why the distance? Why the deleting of social media sites? I don’t get it. HOW is it possible that a dude got you do hung up so fast? How is someone so inside of your own mind? Of course my friend and I don’t want to believe this is a thing. Who wants to have the thought that your best friend ditched you for some dude? No one. But that isn’t even the best part.
The kicker? They haven’t even had sex yet. This is all over some choking and a couple blowjobs. Me personally, I don’t think ALL of this is worth a crazy ex-wife hating you, tearing a family further apart, and your mental/emotional health. At all. But that’s me.
All I know is that this isn’t healthy, either way. I hate it but I’m powerless. She has to help herself. I just hope it’s not too late when this ends. It’s toxic.